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ALPIMS • ABC PLEASE • C

Cope ahead

Prepare for a difficult moment. Practise a useful response. Include the support you need.

Cope Ahead is a DBT skill for rehearsing how you will respond to a situation that may bring strong emotions or unhelpful urges. This page also includes practical preparation for health, sensory and energy needs.

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The aim is a workable response—not a perfect outcome. You can prepare, ask for changes, pause or choose another option. You do not have to predict everything or make difficult feelings disappear.

A simple cope-ahead plan

  1. Name one situation. Be specific: a meeting, an appointment, a conversation or an unfamiliar task.
  2. Notice what may be difficult. Include likely feelings, urges and practical needs. You do not need to identify every possibility.
  3. Choose a response. Pick one relevant skill or action and arrange any support.
  4. Rehearse briefly. Imagine yourself responding, say the words aloud, read a short script or practise with someone.
  5. Include a pause and afterwards plan. Decide how to step back, get help and recover. Finish rehearsal with a tolerable settling activity if useful.

Shortest version: “If ______ happens, I will ______. I can ask ______ for help or pause by ______.”

Example: “If I lose my words, I will read my note. I can ask for a moment or send my question afterwards.”

Where might it help?

Everyday situations

Prepare for a meeting, exam, unfamiliar task or change of plans.

Conversations & boundaries

Practise a request, a calm response or a way to pause.

Appointments & outings

Prepare key points, access needs and a manageable schedule.

When capacity may change

Include a smaller option, assistance or a plan to postpone.

How is this different from ordinary planning?

Ordinary planning organises what you need to do. Cope Ahead adds rehearsal of how you will respond when a difficult moment occurs.

For example, organising transport is practical preparation. Practising “I need a break before answering” is coping rehearsal. Both can be useful.

Make it fit your capacity

With everyday capacity, rehearse the situation and one likely difficulty. With less capacity, use a single sentence or a short note.

A supporter can help write the plan or hold the practical details. When overwhelmed or unwell, care and reducing demands may come before rehearsal.

Keep preparation proportionate. You do not need a detailed plan for every interaction.

Optional • Cope Ahead across ALPIMS

These are proposed support roles and adaptations. This skill does not treat the underlying conditions or establish why a symptom occurs.

A • Anxiety & Autonomic

Possible support: rehearse a response to fear or uncertainty and arrange practical help.

Adaptations: if upright symptoms are relevant, plan appropriate seating, transport and breaks. Follow your medical plan; do not interpret every racing heart or dizzy spell as anxiety. Breathing exercises are optional.

Planning with anxiety and autonomic needs • Coming soon
L • Laxity / Connective Tissue

Possible support: practise requesting access changes or help before a task becomes difficult.

Adaptations: consider seating, positioning, mobility aids or assistance carrying items. Prepare a suitable alternative rather than rehearsing pushing through instability or pain.

Access and joint-friendly preparation • Coming soon
P • Pain / Bodily Sensitivity

Possible support: reduce decisions during a flare by preparing a request, practical support or an alternative activity.

Adaptations: include a shorter visit, comfortable positioning and light or sound adjustments when relevant. Pain does not have to disappear before you can ask for support.

Preparing for pain flares and migraine needs • Coming soon
I • Immune / Inflammatory

Possible support: practise explaining dietary or environmental needs and asking about relevant exposures.

Adaptations: follow prescribed treatment and existing allergy or asthma action plans. Coping rehearsal does not replace emergency treatment or make exposure to a known allergen safe.

Planning around allergy and environmental needs • Coming soon
M • Mood / Mental Health

Possible support: rehearse a response to strong feelings, self-criticism or an urge to react impulsively.

Adaptations: choose a manageable situation, retain control and use clinician support when needed. This is not a request to relive trauma. Avoid detailed traumatic imagery; stop if rehearsal increases dissociation or distress.

Trauma-sensitive coping preparation • Coming soon
S • Sensory / Neurodevelopmental

Possible support: make expectations clearer and prepare communication or sensory accommodations.

Adaptations: use written steps, a voice note, pictures or a brief role-play. Arrange quieter times, accessible communication and an exit option. Visualisation, eye contact and masking are not required.

Predictable plans and sensory accommodations • Coming soon
PEM, energy limits and recovery

Planning and rehearsal use energy too. With PEM, keep the plan brief, count cognitive, emotional and social demands, and arrange help where possible.

Include recovery and a genuine option to shorten, postpone or cancel. Confidence after rehearsal does not establish physical capacity. Avoid fixed activity increases or pushing through symptoms.

Planning within energy limits • Coming soon
For families and supporters

Ask what preparation is welcome. Offer help with practical details or practise a brief exchange together.

Agree what happens if a pause is needed. A plan might include “fewer words”, “help me leave” or “please handle the arrangements”. Respect changes in capacity.

The person should not carry all responsibility for coping with an inaccessible setting or another person’s behaviour.

Shared planning without pressure • Coming soon
Sources and scope

Cope Ahead is part of DBT’s ABC skills. Written rehearsal alternatives and domain adaptations here are educational suggestions, not a separately validated ALPIMS programme.

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Information, not individual treatment advice. Cope Ahead is preparation, not a guarantee. For immediate danger or a medical emergency, prioritise safety and appropriate help rather than rehearsal.

Rehearsal without visualising

Traditional Cope Ahead often uses imagined rehearsal. If you do not form mental pictures—or imagery feels uncomfortable—try one of these alternatives:

  • Read a short “if this, then that” note.
  • Say your chosen sentence aloud.
  • Practise a brief exchange with someone you trust.
  • Use a cue card or voice recording.

Rehearse your response, not every detail of a worst-case scenario. Closing your eyes, focusing on your breath and sensing a particular feeling are optional.

Accessible ways to rehearse a plan • Coming soon

When preparation turns into worry

A useful plan ends with a practical response. Repeatedly imagining new disasters can become exhausting and may not improve preparation.

Choose one realistic difficulty and one response. Write it down, then stop. You can use a brief time limit if helpful.

If rehearsal increases distress or becomes hard to stop, pause, reduce demands and consider support. You do not need certainty before ending the planning session.

Planning without rumination • Coming soon

An everyday example

Situation: speaking in a work meeting.

Difficulty: nervousness and an urge to rush.

Response: use three notes, speak one point at a time and ask for a moment if needed.

Rehearsal: say the opening sentence and practise recovering after losing your place. Afterwards, take a short break if useful.

Cope-ahead examples for daily life • Coming soon

A conversation example

Situation: asking to change a household arrangement.

Response: “I would like us to agree on a time that works for both of us.”

Pause option: “I want to continue, but I need a break. Can we agree when to return to this?”

Practise expressing your request clearly. Another person’s agreement is not guaranteed, and coping well does not mean accepting mistreatment. Where safety is a concern, seek appropriate support rather than rehearsing confrontation.

Clear requests and conversation pauses • Coming soon

An appointment example

Preparation: write two main concerns, arrange transport or access adjustments if needed, and bring relevant care information.

Rehearsal: “I have written my main concerns because I may lose track. Could we start with these?”

Alternative: ask for written instructions, a break or a suitable remote appointment where available. Include time and help afterwards.

Preparing for accessible appointments • Coming soon

When capacity changes

Main option: attend or complete the planned activity if it remains suitable.

Smaller option: shorten it, reduce tasks or add help.

Care-first option: postpone, cancel or ask someone to manage arrangements.

Rehearse: “My capacity has changed. I need to use the shorter option today.” Changing the plan is an appropriate response, not a failure of the skill.

Flexible plans for changing capacity • Coming soon