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ALPIMS • ABC PLEASE • B

Build mastery

Practise something achievable. Build confidence through experience. Make the step fit you.

In DBT, building mastery means doing things that develop a sense of competence. It might involve a hobby, learning, everyday tasks or a useful communication skill. You can practise independently, with adaptations or with help.

Choose a practice idea Back to ABC PLEASE

Your worth does not depend on achievement. Mastery is a skill to explore, not a test of effort or independence. On a difficult day, essential care and recovery may come first.

Choose a manageable challenge

Look for something you can practise successfully with the resources available. Where appropriate, choose a small stretch beyond what feels automatic—without making the task overwhelming.

How is this different from accumulating positives?

Positive experiences: make room for pleasure or meaning. Mastery: practise a skill or task to develop competence.

They can overlap. Playing familiar music for enjoyment may be a positive experience; practising a new chord may build mastery. Neither requires producing something impressive.

Accumulate positive experiences

What would you like to practise?

Open one area. Choose what matters to you, rather than what you think you should be good at.

Learning & interests

Practise a hobby, learn a useful technique or explore a new skill.

Everyday skills

Practise one part of cooking, planning, technology or managing a task.

Communication & boundaries

Practise a clear request, a question or a respectful stopping point.

Using support & caring for yourself

Learn to use an aid, recognise a limit or organise help in a way that works for you.

Try one practice step

  1. Choose a skill: what would be useful or meaningful to learn?
  2. Define a small step: decide what you will practise, with a clear stopping point.
  3. Set up support: use instructions, equipment, an accessible setting or someone’s help.
  4. Practise: aim for a workable attempt, not perfection.
  5. Review: what did you learn? Consider symptoms and delayed effects as well as the task.

Repeat when appropriate. If the step becomes manageable, you can choose a next challenge. You can also keep it the same, make it smaller or pause.

Example: learning with everyday capacity

A person wants to learn to cook. They choose one straightforward recipe, read it first and practise making it. Next time, they use what they learned to make the process easier.

As confidence grows, they might choose another recipe. The challenge increases by choice and suitability, not because every practice must be harder.

Example: a smaller or supported step

A person finds meal preparation difficult. They practise choosing ingredients from two options while someone helps prepare the meal. Another person might practise one seated preparation step with suitable equipment.

The skill is participation or learning that fits the person. Completing the whole task alone is not the required outcome.

Optional • Build mastery across ALPIMS

These are proposed ways to support confidence, participation and care. They are not claims that mastery practice treats the underlying conditions.

A • Anxiety & Autonomic

Possible support: practise communication, preparation or a manageable skill that helps you navigate daily situations.

Adaptations: if upright symptoms occur, use seated or reclined options and follow your medical plan. Physical symptoms should not automatically be treated as anxiety or a challenge to overcome.

Practice with anxiety and autonomic needs • Coming soon
L • Laxity / Connective Tissue

Possible support: develop a useful technique or learn to use equipment that makes participation easier.

Adaptations: consider joint protection, positioning, grip aids and appropriate rehabilitation advice. Increasing physical difficulty is not always a suitable mastery goal.

Skills and adaptations for joint needs • Coming soon
P • Pain / Bodily Sensitivity

Possible support: practise an activity or care skill that supports agency while living with pain.

Adaptations: shorten practice, reduce light or sound where needed and allow comfortable positioning. Practise recognising when to stop. Pain reduction is not required for the step to be worthwhile.

Mastery while living with pain • Coming soon
I • Immune / Inflammatory

Possible support: learn practical routines for accessing care or communicating health needs.

Adaptations: avoid relevant allergens or triggers and follow treatment plans. Mastery should not involve testing exposure to a known allergen or ignoring necessary dietary restrictions.

Practical skills for allergy and inflammatory needs • Coming soon
M • Mood / Mental Health

Possible support: achievable practice may help build a sense of competence when confidence is low.

Adaptations: use smaller steps, supportive feedback and choice. If practice evokes shame or trauma-related distress, adjust it or seek help. This page does not replace mental health treatment.

Confidence, self-criticism and supported practice • Coming soon
S • Sensory / Neurodevelopmental

Possible support: develop personally useful skills through interests, accessible communication and suitable teaching.

Adaptations: use demonstrations, written steps, reminders, extra processing time or a quieter setting. Goals should fit the person; masking, forced eye contact or enduring painful sensory input are not required.

Accessible learning and executive function support • Coming soon
PEM, fluctuating capacity and recovery

With PEM, thinking, emotional work and social practice can also contribute to delayed worsening. Work within individual energy limits and include assistance and recovery.

Do not use mastery as a reason for fixed activity increases or pushing through symptoms. A practice step can be smaller on one day than another. Rest itself is a care need; practising recognising limits or requesting rest can be a skill.

Practice within energy limits • Coming soon
For families and supporters

Let the person choose the goal. Ask whether they want a demonstration, a prompt, shared practice or help completing part of the task.

Use specific feedback: “You made your request clearly” or “That aid made the step easier.” Respect pauses and avoid taking over without consent.

Support should remain available whether or not practice goes well. Independence is one possible goal; supported participation is also valid.

Supporting learning without pressure • Coming soon
Sources and scope

Build Mastery is part of DBT’s ABC skills. The examples and domain adaptations here are educational suggestions, not a separately validated treatment programme.

Back to ABC PLEASE ALPIMS – DBT

Information, not individual treatment advice. Match practice to health, access and capacity. Difficulty with a task may reflect symptoms, barriers or missing support rather than lack of effort.

Learning & interests

Everyday options: learn a musical phrase, practise a craft technique, study a topic or develop a suitable sporting skill.

Smaller or supported options: practise one note, watch a short demonstration or do one step with guidance.

Choose a clear aim such as “try this technique once”. Enjoyment can help motivation, but success does not require producing something impressive.

Learning through interests • Coming soon

Everyday skills

Everyday options: practise a recipe, organise a small task or learn a useful phone function.

Smaller or supported options: use a checklist, rehearse one action or complete a task together.

Choose practice rather than an endless list of chores. A useful stopping point might be “learn to save one reminder”, not “organise my whole life”.

Breaking everyday tasks into steps • Coming soon

Communication & boundaries

Practise a question, request or boundary in a suitable setting. For example: “Could you explain one step at a time?” or “I need to pause this conversation.”

Use speech, writing, a saved message or communication support. You can rehearse with someone you trust before trying the skill.

Evaluate how clearly you expressed the need, not whether the other person agreed. Their response is not entirely under your control.

Practising clear requests and boundaries • Coming soon

Using support & caring for yourself

Practise using an aid, preparing one question for an appointment, asking for help or recognising an early stopping point.

With support, you might choose between two care options, learn one part of an existing care routine or explain what assistance works best.

The skill is using care and support effectively. You do not have to become independent or symptom-free.

Skills for using care and support • Coming soon

Choose the right-sized step

Ask: Is the goal clear? Is the step achievable today? What support is needed? When will I stop?

If you have capacity, choose a manageable stretch. If the task is overwhelming, break it down, change the setting or add support.

Next time, repeat, simplify or extend only as appropriate. Success can mean a better technique or clearer request; it does not have to mean more time, exertion or output.

Choosing achievable practice goals • Coming soon

When practice feels discouraging

Ask whether the task was too large, the instructions unclear, the support missing or your capacity different today.

Try: “This attempt gave me information. What would make the next step more workable?” You can also choose another goal or pause.

A mistake does not erase learning. If practice increases shame or distress, reduce the demand and consider support. There is no requirement to practise every day regardless of health.

Confidence, self-criticism and supported practice • Coming soon