Living with ALPIMS means living with ongoing loss—of energy, roles, dreams, routines, and sometimes relationships. These losses often go unseen or invalidated, yet they impact identity and emotional health in profound ways.
🧭 Grief is not just about death. It’s about the life you thought you’d live.
🧩 ALPIMS & Chronic Loss Patterns
| Type of Loss | Common ALPIMS Experiences | Emotional Impact |
|---|---|---|
| Functional Loss | Energy, mobility, cognitive clarity | Shame, frustration, mourning ability |
| Identity Loss | Career, parenting role, social position | Confusion, anger, self-doubt |
| Relational Loss | Friends who drift, family misunderstandings | Abandonment, resentment, grief |
| Future Loss | Delayed goals, dreams on hold | Hopelessness, fear, emptiness |
| Invisible Loss | Lack of external recognition of daily struggle | Isolation, gaslighting, invalidation |
🕯️ Honoring ALPIMS Grief
- Name Your Losses
→ Make space to write or speak them aloud without minimization - Witness Each Layer
→ Grieve energy loss differently than identity loss—it’s all valid - Make Room for Mixed Emotions
→ Joy and grief can co-exist; allow contradiction - Use Symbolic Practices
→ Try letters to your past self, grief altars, release rituals - Stay Gentle in Identity Remaking
→ You don’t have to rush into new roles—just tend to your roots
🌱 Navigating ALPIMS Identity Changes
- Create a timeline of self: “Before illness,” “During transformation,” “Becoming now”
- Use visual metaphors (tree, map, mosaic) to understand identity layering
- Try affirmations like: “My worth is not measured by productivity or pace.”
- Surround yourself with people who reflect your emerging self, not just your past roles
🔗 [Download: ALPIMS Grief & Identity Workbook + Remapping Timeline Tool]
🔗 [Explore: Chronic Illness Letter Templates, Role Renaming Worksheets, and Grief Recovery Scripts]
🌿 Who you are becoming is rooted in all you’ve survived.
You are not broken. You are becoming.